Inside A Suicider
Posted by M. Asim Shehzad
The increasing trend of suicidal attacks in third world countries gives an alarming message to psychologists to study and know the factors that cause these kind of thoughts. After knowing the base it can be easily controlled. First of all we should know that the persons who use themselves in these kind of activities are actually the persons living with us, in our area, in our society. These are those individuals who face those difficulties which are implicit.
People who are suicidal usually go through a set of stages with their suicidal thoughts and feelings. Most people who are suicidal don’t just wake up one day and say, “Hey, I’m going to kill myself.” Instead, what happens is depression is mixed with hopelessness (a feeling that these bad things will never change) often accompanied by a sense of feeling trapped. Like there’s no way out of the circumstances of our life. The feeling starts off small, as just a thought nugget — “Ending it would solve all my problems, wouldn’t it?” The more hopeless the situation appears to be (it doesn’t matter whether it is or not in reality), the more these thoughts start to take on a life of their own.
For most people, suicidal thoughts are the start and end of their suicidal intentions. Having an occasional suicidal thought even when you’re not depressed is not unusual and no reason to panic. But for a small group of people, the suicidal thoughts don’t end or lessen with time and depression treatment. They get worse. They start to grow out of control, as the person moves from just thinking about ending their lives as an abstract concept, to starting to think about concrete ideas of how to do it (and do it successfully). As these thoughts grow and a plan takes shape, people who are suicidal engage in some common behaviors. They start to give away some of their possessions (especially stuff that means a lot to them). They start to act more reckless than usual, perhaps driving in a manner unlike themselves, perhaps engaging in behavior you’ve never seen them do before. Their mood may vary widely as they wrestle with the internal demons that only they can see, and that only they can fight.
The cases that came in study were shocking. The people who were used for suicidal attempts were brain washed. If they failed in their mission mission and get caught even then they did not commit their mistake and sticked to their motives. Because according to them they are doing right.
The study of brainwashing, often referred to as thought reform, falls into the sphere of “social influence.” Social influence happens every minute of every day. It’s the collection of ways in which people can change other people’s attitudes, beliefs and behaviors. For instance, the compliance method aims to produce a change in a person’s behavior and is not concerned with his attitudes or beliefs. It’s the “Just do it” approach. Persuasion, on the other hand, aims for a change in attitude, or “Do it because it’ll make you feel good/happy/healthy/successful.” The education method (which is called the “propaganda method” when you don’t believe in what’s being taught) goes for the social-influence gold, trying to affect a change in the person’s beliefs, along the lines of “Do it because you know it’s the right thing to do.” Brainwashing is a severe form of social influence that combines all of these approaches to cause changes in someone’s way of thinking without that person’s consent and often against his will.
Another factor is poverty. A poor person will do what ever he gets to feed him and his family. The people who are involved in destructive works find and catch these kind of people who are poor and illetrate. They provide them money and use their life for the sake of their own motives. A poor person who have no other option works for them in order to get money for his family in exchange to his life.
How can we stop suicidal attacks?
Special attention is needed to our society and people living around us in order to know what are the problems and difficulties they are facing in there life. All the wrong starts with a thought. That thought which is fully depress, hopeless, lonely and neglected by the society. When the whole society works together to stop one think then they can.
But the thoughts are always hidden. It can only be stopped by the person thinking. So first of all a person should think that life is beautiful. It is full of oppurtunities and happiness. Be optimistic, its the solution for many problems. You are the owner of your life, of which you only get one. Depending on your beliefs, you may or may not believe in an afterlife. Your existence is special. Why don’t you leave that thing, situation, or problem which forces you to finish your life. And start a new life in a new place with new people in a new working environment. Live life day-to-day and give it a chance to improve. Tell yourself that you can, at the very least, get through this day, all the way till bedtime. Once you’ve made it that far, tell yourself that you will sleep on it before deciding to take any action. Take one day at a time, or if you feel that’s too hard, take it one hour at a time. Remember that things will often get worse before they get better.
Anything is possible when you set your mind to it. Think about the great times you can make and all you’ll be missing out on. Try to really truly put yourself into someone else’s life, give them some seconds or minutes to understand how their whole life is. Think senses. Hurts and desires. Loved and lost. We are all here together, no matter how far apart we are in distance. Instead of ending your life, try beginning it. One way to do that is to be truly true to yourself and others. Look for the things that are good in life. Start with the littlest things; perhaps a pet, a sunrise or sunset, something you find comfort in doing or seeing. Grab onto this thing and cherish it. Make a list. It doesn’t matter how trivial these things are or what anyone else thinks of them, it’s whatever you’re actually looking forward to that matters for any reason.
“Life is about living not dying.”